When I was a young new mother learning how to be a great mom like we all want to be, I was a bit neurotic and quite Anal(as they say today) raising my first few kids. I wouldn't let them tear the house apart while playing, Why? because I had to have my home clean 24/7. So I monitored how my kids played and what they played with most of the time. I let them get dirty and have breakfast smeared on their face all of about 2 seconds then out came the wash cloth. Their hair was always fixed, clothes matched and pressed, and toys were picked up on the hour. Then the next set of kids came along. Toys weren't picked up til the end of the day. Hair was still fixed and clothes pressed but when they got spills on their clothes like kids often do, I wouldn't run for the spot remover and strands of hair could actually fall out of the girls french braids and the boys hair got buzzed so I didn't have to worry about it. Monitoring play time became a real hassle so their were more bloody lips from falls, marker on closet doors, toys in the toilet, buggers on the walls and "Where the heck are your shoes?"
That's why I love being a Grandma so much. I've had many years of taking my CHILL pills, lots of shattered expectations, disappointments, tears, and challenges. I've learned that as a mother, wife, and friend that life is too short to stress over spilled milk! I love my kids, love my spouse, love my friends unconditionaly, mistakes will be made, hearts will get broken and many of their lives will go in paths that we don't expect, or agree with, but that is not for me to judge. My grandkids will also have their ups and downs and being a mother has helped me to be a terrific grandma and earned me the right for a second chance. At my house things still get broken, plans get changed, the fridge gets empty, the water softener breaks, the car quits, kids argue and cuss, slam doors, break my things (on accident), kick the dogs, flood the toilet and so on and so forth. As a Grandma I know that more than likley my grand kids will do the same things, with the knowledge that Grandma will love them anyway, even let them unroll the toilet paper roll again another day. Grandma will slip them candy when mom's not looking, buy them things they don't need, let them stay up past their bedtime and jump on the bed with them.
I love being a Grandma.
Today I felt under the weather and stayed home from work. I watched Mya most of the day and had a great time. I worked on my scrapbooks while she kept busy doing things toddlers like to do. Pull everything out of the drawers, play in the bathroom, and pull all the clothes out of the laundry baskets.
Mya getting ready to see what mess she can make next.
I think I will help grandma scrapbook
Off to the toy bucket
Disappeared into the bathroom to unroll all the toilet paper
Then into grandmas room to pull out all the clean clothes
Taking a break from my busy day
Eating graham crackers and feeding them to the dogs...oops
We had a great day!Mya visiting on Sunday. She is soooo precious in her Cute little dress.
